Share this with Sean Abbott

December 3, 2014


Please pass this along for bereft Australian cricket star Sean Abbott.

He needs to know there is post-traumatic stress and post-traumatic growth.

Sean you are going to be fine.

In fact, you could become an even more amazing man.  There are two kinds of people in the world, those who have experienced grief and those who will. There are also two kinds of trauma responses. Post-traumatic stress and post-traumatic growth. Dr. Martin Seligman, arguably the most important psychologist alive, researches this area. In his latest book Flourish he has found that people recover from trauma and flourish. They become more resilient, more positive, more engaged with life, deepen their relationships, find more personal purpose and continue to accomplish their dreams.

In fact, says Seligman the more trauma you experience the more resilient you become. Not that I would wish anyone more, particularly you. It’s just this is what Seligman’s research shows. I know this flies in the face of what we have been told for years but Sean check his book out. We hear way to much about PTSD because despair makes news, recovery…not so much.

Sean, we look up to athletes because you are our modern day warriors. You have your tribe, your team. You have discipline, focus and fortitude.  Sport is a battlefield of mind, body and spirit. Shit happens.This was an accident. You were doing your job. A job so many young boys in this nation want. Your job, when you are ready is to get out on the cricket pitch and let your fans love you.  They will cheer you for the courage it takes to face the unbearable and continue… whatever that means to you. Your choice will be respected    because so many of us have had to make such choices in the face of loss.

Sean, your immense talent put you in the spotlight. Now life itself is asking you to forgive yourself so you can be yourself. Tribes have initiations into manhood where you face the meaning of death and life. Your initiation has been public and hard, profound and life changing. And you are still you, all that is good and right and true, is still you.  Play on brother, play on.  Our hearts can hold yours ’till it mends.


One Response to “Share this with Sean Abbott”

  1. Louise Karch on December 3rd, 2014 7:35 am

    Thank you Karen, his path is not easy but the path of the great are never easy.

If it is not your genius it is not your job.
Louise B. Karch